Create An Intimate Marriage & Loving Relationship With Intimacy Coaching

Intimacy keeps you and your spouse feeling close and connected. When many people think of intimacy, they think about sex.

However, intimacy is not limited to a sexual encounter. There are many different dimensions of being connected.

When partners connect on all levels, they grow closer and strengthen their marriage and relationship.

Several types of intimacy include:

Emotional intimacy

Being emotionally intimate involves sharing your innermost feelings with your spouse. To have emotional intimacy, you and your partner must feel relaxed and safe enough to talk about anything without judgment and be vulnerable. Emotional intimacy is an essential aspect of a healthy marriage.

Physical intimacy & physical affection

Physical intimacy includes showing physical affection to spark feelings of closeness. For example, physical affection can be kissing, cuddling in bed, or holding hands. Research reveals that non-sexual touch releases chemicals that relieve stress, promote bonding, and help us feel more connected.

Sexual intimacy

Sexual intimacy includes but is not limited to sensual and sexual activities. Additionally, being sexually intimate encompasses conversations about sexual desires, needs, and fantasies.

Spiritual intimacy

Spiritual intimacy involves sharing beliefs and values, participating in spiritual or religious practices, or even spending time together in nature.

Intellectual intimacy

Intellectual intimacy is sharing your ideas, thoughts, and opinions with your spouse (for example, talking about a book you both read or discussing a political issue). Also, intellectual intimacy requires confidence that your partner will fully accept and embrace you, even when they have a different perspective.

The most common reason for a lack of intimacy in marriages is complacency.

Many couples find that the longer they’ve been married, the more difficult it is to maintain passion and sexual intimacy.

It is easy for married couples to settle into a comfortable routine and lose the passion and excitement they once had.

Additionally, the demands of work, family, and other stressors quickly shift focus away from being present with your partner.

In many relationships, intimacy plummets after having children.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman researched the effect of parenting on relationship satisfaction and intimacy.

Their study found that nearly 2/3 of couples have decreased relationship satisfaction three years after having children.

As many couples shift focus to parenting and adjusting to the new family dynamic, it’s common for connecting intimately to fall to the back burner.

In addition, parenting may lead to physical or mental health challenges for one or both partners.

Women commonly experience hormonal changes that can cause mood shifts and low sex drive.

Additionally, other factors contribute to a lack of intimacy, such as built-up hurt, lack of healthy communication, and frequent conflict or tension within the marriage.

An intimacy coach provides professional guidance, support, and education to individuals and couples seeking to enhance their intimacy. A relationship coach or intimacy coach aims to help you understand your desires, boundaries, and needs within your intimate relationships.

As intimacy coaches, we work to address various aspects of intimacy, including communication, emotional connection, sexual exploration, and relationship dynamics.

In intimacy coaching sessions, we use a variety of disciplines, including human psychology, sexology, counseling, and coaching, to provide personalized guidance tailored to our client’s specific needs.

We create a safe and non-judgmental space, so you feel comfortable exploring your attachment wounds, communication skills, self-awareness, and intimacy patterns.

An intimacy coach can help you

– Communication skills: Teaching effective techniques to express desires, boundaries, and concerns in a respectful and open manner.

– Emotional intimacy and connection: Helping you establish deeper emotional bonds and a stronger sense of connection.

– Overcoming challenges: Addressing issues such as mismatched desires, performance anxiety, and past traumas that may affect intimacy.

– Relationship dynamics: Navigating power dynamics, conflict resolution, and building trust in your relationship.

– Self-discovery: Understanding your own needs, desires, and personal growth in the context of intimacy.

As intimacy coaches and relationship coaches, we are not licensed therapists or medical professionals, although we have experience in counseling, psychology, or related fields.

Sex coaches concentrate mainly on sexual techniques, pleasure, and sexual health. On the other hand, intimacy coaches adopt a more comprehensive approach by addressing emotional connection, communication, and relationship dynamics.

Sex Coaching

A sex coach primarily focuses on providing education and guidance on pleasure, satisfaction, and different aspects of their sexuality.

Sex coaches may offer techniques to enhance sexual performance and address concerns such as erectile dysfunction or low libido.

Sex coaching provides information about anatomy, sexual health, and communication skills related to sexual matters. They may also offer guidance on sexual exploration and experimentation.

Intimacy Coaching

As relationship and intimacy coaches, our focus is on the emotional and relational aspects of your partnership. We aim to enhance overall well-being by exploring the emotional, physical, and sexual aspects of your relationship.

We emphasize building effective communication, trust, and emotional connection to help you deepen your understanding of each other’s needs, desires, and boundaries.

In intimacy coaching sessions, we take a holistic approach to coaching, not just addressing sexual aspects but also emotional and psychological components that contribute to a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

We help clients work through conflicts, enhance their ability to bond and enrich their emotional intimacy.

Relationships without intimacy are incredibly challenging.

However, you can find ways to develop the feelings of closeness you desire.

To increase intimacy with your partner:

Spend time together regularly.

Schedule date nights on a regular basis. Before you go to bed at night, check in with your partner. When you spend time with your partner without distractions, you’ll fuel passion, sexual attraction, and connection.

Cultivate curiosity.

Relationships become stale when we assume we know everything about our spouse. To maintain closeness, get curious about your partner. Keep asking questions and learning about them. Make time for meaningful conversations. Explore new experiences and aspects of your relationship together.

Seek support.

If you’re struggling with challenges around sexual intimacy (like sexual dysfunctions), seek the support of a sex therapist.

For further guidance as you strengthen emotional and sexual intimacy in your marriage, join the Intimacy Program.

The Intimacy Program will teach you to be more present with each other, talk about anything, and reignite the passion and connection you’ve been craving.