#1 Rated Relationship Coach
Specializing In Communication & Breaking Negative Patterns
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Relationship coaching that helps couples recover
Lies
Conflicts over parenting
Infidelity
Lack of desire in the bedroom
Constant arguing and big blowouts
Holding on to past hurts
Money issues and so much more…
It’s possible to end your struggles and have a relationship where you feel safe, secure, and like you can talk about anything. In my work, couples open up, reconnect, and find answers to unsolvable issues.
As a trained relationship coach specializing in creating healthy communication styles and seeing destructive patterns–I can easily see the blind spots couples can’t.
In our time together, you’ll learn how to support each other, listen to one another, enjoy date nights, have fun, parent as a team, appreciate each other, have more sex, laugh more, and be the kind of couple others want to be.
Luis Congdon’s Journey
When I was five years, my mom was murdered.
My father left when I was born, and I learned the heartache that comes when love doesn’t work.
Life in Medellin, Colombia, wasn’t easy. My young mother got addicted to cocaine.
When she was killed over a drug debt, I was left homeless for three years until I was finally adopted.
Being adopted by an American couple transformed my world. I had a new mom and dad and was surrounded by a loving family.
Soon after, though, my adoptive parents divorced. Again, I was left confused, feeling like I couldn’t rely on love.
I decided that love can’t last and turned to spirituality for the connection I sought. For nearly a decade, I devoted my life to becoming a monk. My path into spirituality taught me a great deal—But no matter how much I learned, something was missing.
Deep down, I knew that the path to finding peace and greater fulfillment was through loving another.
The Birth of Lasting Love Connection…
When I met my wife, Kamala Chambers, she convinced me to go all in on my dreams.
We traveled the world and built Lasting Love Connection together.
She is one of the key authors and faces behind the scenes that made Lasting Love Connection what it is today — a top resource for couples who want a thriving marriage.
As a researcher, I bring the academic and science to our work.
And Kamala offers body-centered therapeutic practices and the feminine to help balance our work.
With 19x Oprah guest, Dr. Harville Hendrix
& Leading Marriage Researchers, Drs. Julie and John Gottman
As a Marriage Success Coach and Marriage Education Facilitator for the nation’s most extensive research project on marital success, I fast-tracked my understanding of romantic relationships.
Teaching the work of renowned marriage researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman showed me what it takes for a relationship to last.
Our passion for helping couples has led Kamala and me to interview and learn directly from nearly every relationship expert.
Kamala and Luis with Drs. Helen Lakelly Hunt and Harville Hendrix.
Luis and Kamala with Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
Our Promise To You…
Our work comes out of a passion for helping others avoid the pains I went through. When we lose love, it’s like a part of us dies—a pain that can cut deeper than any wound.
When we have unhealthy patterns in our relationship, it’s as if we’ve put a kink in our ability to tap fully into the love available.
That’s why I’ve devoted my life to being a relationship coach—to help couples, their kids, and everyone impacted when a relationship breaks.
It’s my specialty to help couples end negative cycles and find new pathways forward.
Love can be simple.
It just takes the right insights, coaching, and methods to avoid the pitfalls that come with being in a relationship.
“Helped me see that I really am doing a great job as a Mother and everything is going to be alright.”
“Luis helped me get perspective. It’s hard raising two teenage daughters, Luis helped me see that I really am doing a great job as a Mother and everything is going to be alright. I hated asking for help, but getting support made things so much easier.”
“My relationship is stronger than it has ever been and growing everyday!”
“I had been struggling with acceptance and misguided emotional responses in my relationship with my partner. Luis listened to me, found the compassion necessary to understand my pain and helped guide me to a place of peace in myself and to find that love that transcends my complete understanding. No other human being has ever had such an effect on my psyche. My relationship is stronger than it has ever been and growing everyday!”
“Luis is the best one out there.”
“Luis has changed my life. He has helped me clear my mind and has given me the necessary tools to rebuild my confidence, self-esteem, and feel more motivated. It was hard to find a good coach. In my opinion, Luis is the best one out there.”
Frequently Asked Questions
About Relationship Coaching
What does a relationship coach do?
A relationship coach helps couples navigate their challenges and achieve a more satisfying relationship.
Think of relationship coaches as personal trainers.
Instead of providing fitness coaching, they offer relationship advice, guidance, and careful instruction.
A relationship coach teaches you the skills required to build a loving relationship.
They provide hands-on support to help you break repetitive patterns and develop healthier ways of relating.
Is getting a relationship coach worth it?
Yes. A relationship coach will help you to transform your relationship and gain the tools for lasting love.
When your marriage improves, it enhances your quality of life.
Studies show that a healthy relationship has numerous positive benefits on an individual’s happiness, income, physical health, sense of belonging, and life satisfaction.
On the other hand, a toxic marriage can lead to harmful consequences for not only the individuals in the relationship but the whole family.
What if my partner doesn't feel comfortable starting relationship coaching?
There are various reasons why your partner might be hesitant about relationship coaching.
First, validate their feelings and allow them the space to express their concerns.
Then, we recommend booking a complimentary consult with us.
The consultation is an opportunity to speak with a trained expert free of charge.
During your 30-minute phone call, we’ll discuss your relationship challenges, and you’ll receive a roadmap for how to move forward.
The consultation lets you and your partner see if you’re interested in taking the next step and starting relationship coaching.
What problems do relationship coaches solve?
Relationship coaches work with clients facing a variety of relationship issues, such as:
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Frequent arguing
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Unhelpful communication patterns
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Poor conflict resolution
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Healing past hurts
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Recovering from infidelity
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Emotional disconnection
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Lack of sexual intimacy
Relationship coaches help you break harmful patterns in your marriage and communicate more effectively.
Additionally, a relationship coach teaches you how to infuse your marriage with fun, passion, and deeper connection.
Through relationship coaching, couples on the brink of divorce can save their relationships and discover new ways to move forward.
However, for relationship coaching to successfully work, clients must be committed to the process and willing to put in the effort required to improve their relationships.
What are the qualities of a good relationship coach?
A good relationship coach is empathetic, non-judgmental, and knowledgeable about the challenges many couples face and the specific ways to get them unstuck.
Successful relationship coaches create a safe space for clients to process difficult emotions and experiences.
They ensure both partners are feeling heard and understood.
Additionally, a good relationship coach pushes clients out of their comfort zone to help them grow.
A great coach will teach you how to spot unhealthy patterns and the right communication skills to turn things around.
For you to get the most out of relationship coaching, it’s essential that you find the right person to work with.
Book a complimentary consultation to see if working with Luis would be a good fit.
What is the difference between a relationship coach and a dating coach?
Dating coaches work with people to help them navigate the dating process.
A dating coach focuses on helping clients find potential partners to date.
For example, a dating coach gives advice as a client creates their online dating profile or practices conversation skills before a date.
On the other hand, relationship coaches focus on what it takes to maintain fulfilling relationships.
A relationship coach guides couples in repairing relationship issues and developing skills for a thriving relationship.
That said, a relationship coaching client does not have to be in a relationship.
Luis also works with single people looking to gain the tools to have a healthy relationship.
If you want to work with Luis as a relationship coaching client without a partner, please know he is not a dating coach.
He will work with you on communication skills and creating patterns for a healthy partnership.
Is relationship coaching a type of life coaching?
Yes, relationship coaching is a subset of life coaching.
Life coaches give clients a general overview of their love lives, careers, family dynamics, etc.
Working with Luis as a relationship coach, you’ll have a specialist who has spent thousands of hours studying couples and relationship dynamics.
Some life coaches offer generalized support, while many coaches specialize in specific areas.
Different types of life coaching include:
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Career coaching
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Business and leadership coaching
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Diet and fitness coaching
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Financial coaching
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Dating and relationship coaching
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Family life coaching
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Mental health coaching
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Addiction and sobriety coaching
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Divorce coaching
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Spirituality coaching
A relationship coach (or marriage coach) helps clients build and maintain thriving relationships.
Before setting up a private practice, many relationship coaches receive training from an accredited relationship coaching program recognized by the International Coaching Federation.
Is relationship coaching the same as couples therapy?
Couples therapy is typically conducted by a licensed marriage and family therapist or professional counselor.
Couples therapy helps people identify emotions, behaviors, and patterns causing conflict or disconnection.
For example, a therapist may help clients uncover the roots of relationship issues by looking at past experiences.
On the other hand, relationship coaching is a more goal-centered approach to helping couples improve their relationships.
A relationship coach focuses on giving you the tools and strategies to achieve your relationship goals.
In relationship coaching, clients receive hands-on support as they move toward more fulfilling relationships.
How is working with Luis Congdon different than working with other relationship coaches?
Unlike other coaches, Luis has unique experience working with the Gottman Institute and the largest research program on marital success. Luis’ work has been incorporated into college curriculums.
Through extensive training with the world’s leading relationship experts, Luis has deep knowledge about the science of lasting love and what it takes to make an intimate partnership last.
What kind of training does Luis have?
Luis has spent thousands of hours training with clinical psychologists, licensed clinicians, licensed marriage and family therapists, and researchers from the Gottman Institute, the University of Washington, and other universities and research centers.
In Luis' opinion, what makes successful relationships happen?
Luis believes that thriving relationships require both partners to have a calm nervous system.
When each person is regulated, they can communicate with less reactivity and more understanding.
Successful relationships require emotional safety, trust, and healthy communication.
What are some of the most vital skills Luis will teach us?
Through working with Luis, you will learn to:
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Communicate with your partner so you both feel heard and understood.
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Navigate conflict resolution with more ease.
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Reignite intimacy so you feel loved and adored again.
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Create a more passionate relationship built on shared goals.
What will the first appointment with Luis look like?
In your couples consultation, we’ll identify the best program for your relationship.
From there, in your first relationship coaching session, we’ll conduct an in-depth relationship assessment.
Also, we’ll examine your relationship goals, communication skills, and level of intimacy.
Then, Luis applies this information to shape sessions to fit your unique goals and needs.
“hones in to help you unpack your baggage”
“feel heard and understood”
“absolute empathy with research backed methods”
“feel heard and also challenged to think deeper”
If You Want Lasting Love, You’re in the Right Place!
Just choose the results you want…
Communication
Learn How To Talk About Anything With Your Partner
Breaking Pattern
Breaking out of Frustrating
Patterns
Reconnect
Reignite Your Passion, Fun,
and Connection
