Signs You Found Your Soulmate – Kathryn Alice Interview

What are the signs you found your soulmate? How do we know if we’ve found one? Kathryn Alice is a soulmate coach and bestselling author.

In this episode, she shares how to find a soulmate and have what we want in all areas of life.

Key Takeaways: Signs You Found Your Soulmate Interview With Kathryn Alice

• When you’re in a positive space, your energy is good; you feel connected to possibilities and inspiration. From positivity, it’s easy to call in love and business success.
• When people fall in love, they’re in the best space they’ve ever been.
• When we learn how to find a soulmate, we can use the same processes to call in financial abundance.
• When you’re looking for signs you found your soulmate, the first step is getting clear on what you want.
• You can get what you want when you go for what you want.
• We have to entertain opportunities to begin to believe and see it.
• Imagine what it feels like to have what you want. Imagine being worthy of having it. As you do, it’s so much easier to have it.
• Start practicing “What if?” Allow yourself to feel what it would be like to know your soul connection.
• Do the inner work to know how to find a healthy relationship soulmate. Feel worthy of it. Get ready for it, and it will come.

Transcript: Signs You Found Your Soulmate Interview With Kathryn Alice

Kamala Chambers
In this episode, we will discuss attracting your soulmate, your soulmate business, and signs you found your soulmate.

Luis Congdon

We have a wonderful guest for you today, Kathryn Alice. She’s written a fantastic book about how to call in the one and find your true soulmate, Love Will Find You. She has mentioned the nine steps to finding that special, perfect somebody. So, without further ado, let’s bring Kathryn Alice.

Here we are with Kathryn Alice. It’s extraordinary to have her here. She’s somebody who’s impacted my life in the love area.

I first came across her work when I didn’t have a relationship, but wanted to understand how to have one. I keep returning to her work for various types of inspiration. Lately, it’s about how you have the kind of job. The kind of inspirational job career that you’re totally in love with.

She talks a lot about soulmates, but how do you also have a soulmate career? She also explains how you balance a career, find your soulmate, etc. Kathryn, welcome to the show. Are you ready?

Kathryn Alice
Yes, I am. Thanks, Luis and Kamala.

Luis Congdon

So great to have you here. One of the things I want to ask you is, I know you’re the first soulmate coach or one of the first people to do this.

How did you tap into, “This is what I want to do?” “Get over the fear” that you didn’t probably have a lot of examples. Then, how did you even get out there and start doing it?

Knowing How To Find A Soulmate Relationship

Kathryn Alice
Well, I was directing a crisis support team at that time. I had done it for many years. Most people who have walked into the clinic have love issues—the most suicidal ones. I just wanted to know the signs you found your soulmate.

So, I started teaching workshops on that subject and writing. I wrote a local column for a long time, and most of my material came from hands-on experience helping people.

I was told if I wanted to help, I would need to go bigger. So, I started teaching in other cities and writing for more national publications, and that’s how I got started. It just went big because people needed it.

Your Soulmate Inspires Your Life Goals

Kamala Chambers
Isn’t that the case? I love that you’ve found what you recognize, where the need is, and what people need the most.

What do you recommend? Is it different when you’re recommending someone find their soulmate business versus the soulmate love of their life? What do you recommend in that process?

Kathryn Alice
When you’re in a positive space, your energy is good. You’re feeling possibilities and become inspired. Love will come along, and business success will either be concurrent with it or shortly after.

When people fall in love, they’re in the best space they’ve ever been.

Kathryn Alice
They’ve never been more inspired and happy, and suddenly, their business is off the hook. So, I do see that, and often, they’re together.

How To Find A Soulmate And Fall In Love

Luis Congdon

In our last interview with you, one of the things you discussed was the idea of calling in that special person. I know some of you may be lacking in the soulmate department and are looking for that special somebody.

It would be remiss if we didn’t let Kathryn talk much about finding a soulmate. To know your soulmate connection, we can use the same processes she talks about to call in that financial abundance or to call in that dream job that we want.

What first steps do you think are critical when learning the signs you found your soulmate?

Kathryn Alice
The first thing is to get a little clear on what we want. Many people have settled and can’t even imagine having what they want. They think the person might be out of their league or they don’t exist. So, I always lead people through a process of getting clear on what they want and what would suit them.

They can think about old relationships and what did and didn’t work. What if they could have anybody, any person? What would they be like? Getting a little clear on what you want helps in knowing the signs you found your soulmate. That’s an excellent first step in removing any limits they have to settle. Settling doesn’t work.

How To Find A Soulmate Without Thinking Too Much

Luis Congdon

As I hear you say that, I’m thinking about one, I used to work a dreaded 9 to 5, and I’m not saying that if you love your job, it’s fantastic.

Apply this stuff to your soulmate. Apply it to whatever area you want to. Because this stuff that Kathryn is sharing can be applied to anything. I’m looking at it from a job perspective at the moment. I remember having jobs that I felt like I had to settle.

It’s like, “This is all I can do.” “I’m 24 years old,” or “I’m this kind of guy,” and “I’m that.” “I’m this, so I can’t have that,” and the same thing. Before I met Kamala, it was the same thing as well.

With our first interview with Kathryn. One of the things that I told her is I used to think that women didn’t want a guy who was a wrestler and really into fitness. And at the same time, he was very sensitive and very into poetry and his feelings.

Now, I look back, and I was like, “Wait. What a limiting belief,” and all of has some of those limiting beliefs. So what do we do when we notice these limiting beliefs, whether about a job or a soulmate? How do you avoid limiting beliefs and signs you found your soulmate?

Kathryn Alice
Let me tell you a story about signs you found your soulmate. This applies to business because I already found my soulmate long ago, and we’ve been married for a long time. One of my next steps was business, and it was to find the right literary agent.

At that time, a junior agent didn’t get my work, we were not on the same page, and wanted me to take the word soulmate out of it, which was messing it up. She was making it to something that wasn’t mine.

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Soulmates Have the Same Life Goals

Kathryn Alice
I had to take the brave step of letting her go, firing her. It was hard, and I decided that I wanted a top-notch agent. So, I used the process we discussed to call for my ideal agent. It turned out to be one of the top literary agents in the country. She was the one who repped Gone Girl, and she also broke the deal for the movie.

That’s who I got, and she wined and dined me in York. She wanted me. She had done her diligence and knew me, and I already had a following and was doing good work. I thought I was paying for lunch, but she insisted on paying for lunch and billing it to the agency.

She made it clear. She said, “I want you.” “I want to rep you.” That’s how it works if you don’t compromise in relationships. When you go for what you want, you can get what you want, and not only that but have them want you as much as you want them.

That applies to love. It applies to the literary agent. It applies to the perfect job, too.

Kamala Chambers

Knowing what you want is the biggest part of getting it for me. I think that’s the number one thing. Luis, you want to say something?

Luis Congdon

I was going to make a joke, but it’s okay. It was a joke about how that happened with Kamala and me. She wanted to dine with me. I called her in, and then she was chasing me like crazy.

Kamala Chambers
He said it was a joke because that’s not true.

How To Find A Soulmate – Know What You Want

I love it, though. That was a good one. Good one, Luis.

When I was about to talk to you guys, I got a little chat message from somebody I’ve been working with. She said this happened to her. She was using my process of applying it to work. She walked into this job interview, and they knew all about her. They told her, “I talked to a few people and realized who you are. I realized you’re the one who should be asking me the questions.” She did get the job, and it was very well-paying.

It does matter to know the signs you found your soulmate. It will be waiting for you when you pave the way and send out that call. It will want you as much as you want it, whether it’s a job, person, or whatever it is.

Kamala Chambers
So, knowing what you want is the biggest part of it. Then, you have to take action to learn how to find a soulmate. Then, it has to merge with belief. What do you think is the next step after knowing what you want and clarifying that?

Soulmates Attraction Through Soul Call

Kathryn Alice
Well, that’s the Soul Call Part, and it’s not action yet. It sounds eerie and fearful, except that I have so much evidence that works.

You can write down what you want and close your eyes. Believe it, and it will help you know how to find a soulmate. If anybody is listening and wants to do this right now, I’m leading you through it.

You close your eyes and think about what you want right now. What’s my big burning desire? You get clear on what you want and call it forth energetically. It’s like you’re sending an engraved invitation for it to come into your life.

Feeling Energetic Shifts Are Signs You Found Your Soulmate

Kathryn Alice
Because I feel like there are energetic shifts, we notice them. When somebody walks into a room, they carry energy. We all read it in two seconds flat, and if they’re in the magnet place, everybody wants to talk to them, and everybody’s heads turn when they walk into the room.

You’re sending out energy. It feels like an invitation, and I have a lot of evidence. It works just from the success rate at which people find love. That’s the next step, and then action can come after that.

Mental Clarity Allows You To Find Your Romantic Soulmates

Luis Congdon

What I got from your work is that it was less about this physical exertion of action. It was more about internal mental clarity regarding finding soulmate relationships.

We are, then, practicing and learning how to nestle into entertainment and have fun with our feelings, thoughts, and desires because so many of us have been constrained and restricted and told that we can’t have that. How would you ever allow yourself if the action or opportunity arises if it’s incongruent with your belief system? There’s a great movie that I enjoy. It was called Sideways. This man in the movie got divorced. He goes on this epic journey through California with all these wineries with this friend.

He meets this woman to whom he’s attracted, and his friend with him is kind of a rebel. He’s this fun, loving, rebellious, out-there guy. It’s not super professional. Just a friend who wants to have fun. Sometimes, that looks very chaotic.

Aligning Your Belief System And Signs You Found Your Soulmate

Luis Congdon

The other guy who was married was very professional, very restricted, and the fun, loving, crazy guy is like, “Man, look at that. That woman is totally into you. She likes you. She digs you.” The guy is like, “Oh no. She would never go for me. That’s my ideal woman, but she would never go for me.”

How could you ever take action if that’s your belief system? So first, you’ve got to change what’s happening inside. Otherwise, when the opportunity arises, you won’t even know how to step into that possibility and have that result. You won’t even see it, maybe. So first, we must entertain it to begin believing it and seeing it. When I think of myself, when I had jobs that I didn’t like, and not long ago, I was homeless. I was sleeping on my friend’s couch and in my car.

Things got bad, and I think some of it was I didn’t believe that I could have a particular reality. I was doing all the work to get there, but I didn’t believe that I could have it. What I did every day is I started listening and reading to stuff like Abraham Hicks and yours as well. I began applying it to my finances and having the job and the work that I would love to have. Then, it began to show up magically. When I met Kamala, she said, “Hey, let’s go to Bali.” “Let’s go to Thailand.” “Let’s travel.” I said, “Oh my God. Okay, fine,” and we did it.

The Process of Cultivating, Dreaming, And Knowing How To Find A Soulmate

Luis Congdon

I had entertained those dreams for quite a long time before she stepped into my world. But I don’t know if I would have been able to accept them. How did I not spend time cultivating and harvesting just within me that it was okay to have that and that I would love to have it? Can you tell us a little more about cultivating, dreaming, and nestling into this?

Kathryn Alice
Yeah. That’s a great example. It sounds like Kamala pulled you to it as well. It’s like she had a better vision than you or more of her sense of possibility. When you’re with the right person, they bring out more in you and inspire you.

Practice Attraction Through Guided Meditation

We’re talking about the Soul Call. I do it through guided meditation, so part of it is sending that invitation. Another part of it is what you’re talking about, envisioning it and making it more real.

You won’t go from homeless to living in a gated estate with a tennis court and a pool. With all the luxuries, including a huge backyard with a soccer field. That’s where I am now, in Malibu, with an ocean view. You wouldn’t do that overnight. You would have to start getting yourself, like even taking walks in nice areas. Saying, “Okay. I will manifest not just anything but a dream home, even if it’s my first home.” Somehow or another, and being in that energy, you create a template.

I do it through guided meditations and ask people to research. Focus on it.

How To Find A Soulmate And Manifest It

Kathryn Alice

Imagine what it feels like to have what you want. Imagine being worthy of having it; as you do, it’s so much easier. It applies to dating a lot. Most people feel like the person they would like would be out of their league. Well, they’re not up to speed with it in their energy and imaginings. The person you like will be out of their reach until you start feeling worthy of them.

Pay Attention to Physical Chemistry

Luis Congdon

When I first saw Kamala at a dancing place, I was very attracted to her. Then, I put myself in a position to say “Hi” to her and meet her because she was leaving the building.

Kamala Chambers

Yeah. He blocked the door.

Kathryn Alice

My goodness.

Luis Congdon

I acted like I was blocking the door, but it was very on purpose. Like, “Oh, you need to get through the door.” “Oh yeah. Excuse me.” “Let me move out of the way, but first, what’s your name?” Kind of like that.

I knew I was interested in going out with her when I met her. But then, one of the things that arose quickly was, “This woman is way too hot for me.” I remember feeling that afterward. What I had to do immediately after that encounter was I went out and hired a coach. I first said to him, “I want to be able to date a woman who’s like this, and I met her. But I don’t feel I could ever have that, and that’s what I want to work on.”

How To Find The Life Partner That You Wish To Have

Luis Congdon

We can apply this to jobs. If we want to get somewhere but don’t think it’s okay with us. Then I guess I hear from you that we start practicing just a “What if?” Let me walk through that nice neighborhood, and what if this was my reality? Let me watch movies where I see things like this and ask what if and feel. Maybe I’m not willing to say, “Okay, this is a reality, and this feels great,” but what if I allow myself to feel what it would be like? That would be cool.

Let me look at some magazines that display images of these types of homes or jobs. One of the first things I did when I wanted to change my life was to start interviewing people. People that were doing way better lives than I was. So that I could at least somehow be in contact with that energy.

Kathryn Alice
Exactly. That’s good work.

Make Your “What Ifs” Happen

Luis Congdon

So we go through this process of practicing the “what if” and getting in touch with it. I’ve heard you say that you even practice what it would be like to have a conversation with this type of partner. And what kinds of things do we discuss to develop the “what if” and allow ourselves to entertain that?

Kathryn Alice
Yes, absolutely, and even prepare for it. I always tell people, “Once we’ve sent out your Soul Call, there’s a level at which it’s already done and coming. So, let’s get ready for it.”

Let’s act as if it’s coming and get you ready for it.

Act In Congruence On The Same Page

Luis Congdon

How do we do that? How do we act in unity with, “Let me prepare for that as if it’s already coming?”

Kathryn Alice
In love, you would want to get all your bills on auto-pay. Maybe practice the favorite meal you’re going to make. Clean out room for them, a spiritual practice of creating a vacuum that needs to be filled. When people do that, they’re affirming. They’re on their way, acting as if, and then they do.

Build Good Relationships With Everyone

In a job interview, you say, “Well, I am going to interview these people and see if it’s what I want.” If it conforms to the invitation I’ve sent out and the job I’m looking for, do they pay enough? Are the conditions what I want? In business, you would call forward like I did with my agent. You could do that with customers and clients as well. Then get ready to greet them and have it be how you want it to be.

Kamala Chambers
I’m hearing a lot of undertones of gratitude for what’s coming. Having that gratitude, the undertones of confidence, and the belief that you know this is something you deserve and feel worthy. It’s almost like you can fake it until you make it.

Kathryn Alice
Yeah, absolutely.

Kamala Chambers
What other important aspects do you want to ensure that our audience walks away with? Some fundamentals for attracting your soulmate and your soulmate in all areas of life.

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A Happy Relationship Is One Of The Signs You Found Your Soulmate

Kathryn Alice

To attract your soul mate, you don’t have to do as much as you think.

Luis talked earlier about doing a lot and heard me talking about doing less. It’s what happens when you’re not up to speed with it. Or if you haven’t put gas in your tank and it’s the hard way. People who are trying to compensate overwork for things.

If we do this inner work where we energetically feel it coming, feel worthy of it, and have that fate, it’s on the way. Then, many times, it will land on our lap. We didn’t do as much as we thought we had to do to have it happen.

Manifest Soul Connection

Kathryn Alice
Do the inner work, get ready for it, and get in the mindset that it can come easily, and then, there’s so much less to do. If we need to do something, it’s easier. It feels like a superpower. You crook your finger, and things fall at your feet, and we’ll have to do it. It will bother us until we do it.

Kamala Chambers
I believe everything you’re saying. I’ve experienced it myself. One thing that I don’t say very often because it sounds arrogant, I guess, or I have judgment about it, but it’s like I get everything I want in life. The manifestation comes easy for me. I think it’s because it’s that clarity.

I’m clear about what I want, and that’s such a huge piece of it because I know that when I get clear, I feel the energy in my body. It comes in, and it happens. When other people do the same thing, they have the same experiences.

It’s like that quote, “Argue for your limitations, and surely they’re yours.”

Kathryn Alice
That’s right.

Signs You Found Your Soulmate and Life Partner

Kamala Chambers
Before we close out, is there anything you want to leave us with and want us all to walk away with?

Kathryn Alice

You can have anything you want, and you can have the love of your life. Not some nice person who is a great companion or that you’re compatible with, but the true love of your life, your soulmate. I know you guys are a wonderful example; you can also have what you want in business.

You could choose your way, and probably the bottom line is what works for me, what will make me happy, and what will fill my days with happiness would be the easy way. When you do that, everything lines up, and you get what you want and succeed.

Luis Congdon

That’s beautiful. Kathryn. You are a torch holder of this belief that you can have it all. You can have what you want, and you deserve to have it, and by having that, you also make the world a better place. Thank you so much for coming on the show today.

Kathryn Alice
Thank you so much for having me, Luis and Kamala. It’s been a real pleasure.