When a client tells me, “My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me.”
I know he feels frustrated and wants to figure out how to get that sexual attraction and desire back in his marriage.
There are many possible reasons why you feel like your wife loves you but doesn’t show that she desires you.
In this article, we’ll go over the most common reasons why your wife has fallen out of love with a lack of desire.
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Realizing “My wife loves me but is not sexually attracted to me” is deeply painful
Maybe you find yourself thinking, ‘It’s not that my wife doesn’t love me anymore, but she just doesn’t seem interested in sex.”
It can be deeply painful to think, “My wife doesn’t want me sexually?” or “My wife says she loves me but shows no affection.”
If your wife doesn’t want sex anymore, it’s normal to feel disappointed and hurt.
Also, you may feel helpless and unsure of what to do.
As stuck as you may feel, it is possible to reignite your sex life again.
This article provides strategies for fueling attraction and passion in your marriage.
“My wife says she loves me but no intimacy:” Why doesn’t my wife desire me?
Here are the top seven reasons your wife may not want sex anymore.
- Your Wife’s Pregnant Or Recently Gave Birth (Hormones)
- The Fun Is Lacking In The Relationship
- You Don’t Have Enough Of Your Own Life
- Deep Unresolved Issues Kill Desire
- Your Wife Doesn’t Feel Cherished, Appreciated, And Feel Loved
- There’s Too Much Focus On Sex, Not Enough Intimacy
- There’s Too Much Focus On The Kids
“Why does my wife not desire me?”: Consider recent stressors
If you recently had kids, it’s essential to consider pregnancy and childbirth’s impact on a woman’s desire.
Many women experience physical attraction differently while pregnant or after giving birth – it’s essential to put this as the top reason why your wife may love you, but you are unsure if she is still attracted to you.
If a recent pregnancy or birth isn’t something you’re concerned about, skip to the other reasons why your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #1: Was she pregnant?
If you’re thinking, “My wife loves me but not sexually,” it’s possible your wife’s pregnancy or recent birth changed her libido.
Giving birth is stressful on the body, mind, and sex drive.
Anytime I work with a couple that recently had children, I know their love life will likely take a toll.
If it’s been under a year since your wife gave birth, don’t assume she doesn’t love you anymore or doesn’t want to be with you.
Research shows that most women experience decreased sex drive after giving birth.
Hormonal changes, the stress of sleepless nights with a newborn, and mental health issues like postpartum depression all affect a woman’s desire to be physically intimate.
Although you probably already know that the stress of child-rearing and hormonal changes affect a woman’s libido, here are a few websites that cite the impact.
- MayoClinic – The signs and effects of postpartum depression.
- Healthline – Sexuality after birth and when sex is safe.
- WebMD – Getting your sex life back after giving birth.
Kids change the game, so if you recently had babies, don’t jump the gun and assume your wife suddenly doesn’t desire you.
Instead, take a look at the info that I’ve cited above.
Of course, if your kids are older than a year or you don’t have kids – keep reading to find the other reasons why your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #2: It’s time to bring the fun back
When you commit yourself to just one person for the rest of your life, it doesn’t mean things are always going to be fun and exciting.
There will be some periods of boredom, stagnancy, and disconnection.
However, that doesn’t mean that connection and intimacy are gone forever.
Having fun together is one of the best ways to reignite the spark and fuel passion and desire.
Related Reading: Being Rejected By Your Wife?
If you’re thinking, ‘My wife doesn’t desire me,’ ask yourself these two questions:
Do my wife and I have fun together?
Do we do gratifying things together?
If the answer isn’t a clear yes – it’s inevitable your wife’s lack of desire for you stems from a lack of fun in your marriage.
The stressors of everyday life and a marriage that doesn’t have much fun kill a woman’s desire.
If the fun has been missing in your marriage, it’s a huge reason your wife is no longer attracted to you.
Since ‘turn on’ for women starts long before the bedroom, having fun will be crucial to changing the situation.
To fix the lack of mutual enjoyment, we highly recommend some creative date night ideas or the Intimacy Game we’ve created to help couples looking to spice things up and reignite the spark again.
The intimacy cards help you bring more fun back into your marriage.
Given that fun is a crucial element of intimacy, you’ll likely find that when you are having a good time with your wife – sex becomes a natural byproduct.
Adding more fun, play, and adventure into your marriage can help your wife fall for you again and reignite the passion you once had.
And if you’re reading this and thinking:
“We do have fun.”
Then let’s move on to the other reasons why your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #3: You don’t have enough of your own life
If you don’t feel desired by your wife anymore, it could be because you lost your attraction factor.
Maybe somehow, you’ve lost your sense of self, interests, and what makes you like yourself.
In marriage, it’s common for men to lose themselves in their relationships and sight of what makes them attractive to others and themselves.
For a moment, pause and ask yourself these questions:
“Am I attracted to me? Do I like who I am?”
If your answer is no, or you’re unsure, keep reading this section.
How to make my wife desire me: pursue your interests
When I do confidence coaching with men who want to be more attractive and want to have a relationship – the first thing I have them do is find ways to get excited about their lives and interests.
If you’ve lost your sense of personal intrigue and passion with yourself – how can you expect your wife to desire you? You can’t.
When dating, you likely intrigued your wife because you could show her new things, which made her want to get close to you.
If your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you, invest in your creative interests.
Bring back that attraction factor by considering what you’d like to cultivate in yourself.
My wife doesn’t want me: get your wife to desire you by pursuing personal interests
- Watch a YouTube video on that topic
- Buy a new book to develop that hobby further
- Join a group online or offline to develop further that interest (meetup.com can help with this)
- Set some time aside on the weekend to do that thing you love doing
- Tell your wife about your interests and share that you’d like to spend time doing those things again
- Call your friends or someone you know who has the same interest and start talking about it
When you start to make yourself more attractive (which isn’t limited to physical appearance), you’ll find that your attraction factor increases.
Interview with New York Time Bestselling Author, Dr. Gay Hendricks
“A relationship thrives when each person has a creative outlet that fulfills them.”
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #4: Deep unresolved issues kill desire
Deep attraction and desire reside in the heart.
If anything is blocking your wife from feeling safe and open – she won’t be able to feel desire fully.
Feeling open and secure is crucial for women to explore the attraction fully.
Are there any underlying issues or hurts you and your wife haven’t dealt with?
Maybe your partner is hurt by something you’ve said or done and hasn’t known how to talk about it.
If you don’t feel desired by your partner anymore, it likely boils down to a roadblock in communication.
Like a kink in a hose will stop water flow, unresolved issues kind the energy of desire and attraction.
So when you work on your communication and fix your relationship problems, the energy of desire will open up and flow again.
For some tips to help you open up communication, check out these articles:
9 Great Marriage Books For Every Couple
Interview: Reasons Why Relationships Fail
The information in these three articles will give you a lot on resolving old issues.
Additionally, working with a relationship expert allows you to gain more insight into your marriage problems and learn strategies for managing conflict and deepening intimacy.
Book a complimentary couples consultation to learn how a relationship coach could improve your marriage.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #5: Make your wife feel cherished, appreciated, and loved
A woman’s desire for her husband is enhanced when her husband makes her feel good.
When you can make your wife feel cherished, appreciated, and loved, it magnetizes her to you. It turns her on. And on the flip side, when a woman feels put down or controlled – it turns her off.
In my couples counseling sessions, I hear women say things like:
“If he could tell me he loves me more often, I’d feel that love more.”
“When my husband sends me loving messages and reminds me that I’m special to him, I feel more turned on.”
“I’d like my husband to touch me more often and show me that he loves me more.”
“When my husband helps me with the kids and tells me how much he loves me, I feel more attracted to him.”
If your wife loves you but doesn’t desire you, maybe it’s because she doesn’t feel appreciated and loved by you.
How to make your wife desire you more: express appreciation
- Write her a written note and stuff it into her purse so she finds it later
- Pack her a nice lunch for work
- Cook dinner so she can relax in the evening
- Tell her how special she is
- Thank her for the things she’s done (be specific)
- Tell her about the favorite qualities and characteristics you most love
- Surprise her with flowers (or something else you know your wife likes)
- Give her a foot massage and tell her how much she means to you
- Give her a long hug and tell her how much you love her
- Call her in the middle of the day and let her know how happy you are to see her later
These simple little gestures will make your wife feel more cherished.
This, in turn, generates more feelings of intimacy, closeness, love, and desire from her.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #6: Too much focus on sex, not enough intimacy
“It’s not that couples are afraid of intimacy; it’s that there is so little intimacy available to them that the sex is not worth having.” -Dr. David Schnarch
In all the couples classes I’ve ever taught, one of the most common reasons wives give for lost feelings of desire:
“He touches me, but I feel like he just wants sex. I wish he’d touch me, and I knew it wasn’t sex-motivated.”
When physical touch is overly focused on sex, your wife won’t trust your touch and won’t fully relax. Her inability to trust your motive can impede your wife’s desire.
What’s the fix?
Touch your wife more often without a motive for sex.
For more support and guidance with talking to your partner about intimacy and enhancing attraction and passion in relationships, join the Intimacy Workshop for Couples.
My wife says she loves me but doesn’t show it”: Give your wife loving touch to increase her desire
- Give her 30-second long hugs when she gets home and let her know you’re thankful she’s home (some experts believe more prolonged hugs increase oxytocin levels).
- Offer to give her a foot massage while you watch a show.
- Try a 6-second kiss (expert marriage researchers Drs. John & Julie Gottman highly recommend this ritual).
- Invite your wife to take a walk, and during your little stroll, hold her hand.
- Light some candles and spend quality time with your wife (and don’t try to have sex; instead, focus on nurturing your emotional connection).
- Take your wife to get a massage together.
- Plan a romantic outing, and don’t try or allude to having sex – instead, focus on connection and fun.
When you do some of these things and take the pressure off having sex, you’ll make your wife feel safe and open again.
As the pressure is taken off sex and your wife feels that you value her for her, she’ll begin to desire you more.
Returning to the quote above by sexpert Dr. David Schnarch, when you increase intimacy, it leads to great sex, the type of sex that’s worth having.
You can increase the connection by taking the pressure off sex and instead focusing on the relationship.
My wife once put it this way, and it’s something all men will do well to remember:
“The turn-on and desire for a woman starts 24 hours before the act of sex.”
Focus on making your wife feel wanted in ways that aren’t sexual- and see if your wife desires you more.
My wife loves me but doesn’t desire me #7: Kids are the priority
If you’re thinking, “My wife no longer desires me,” it’s possible the kids are overly prioritized.
Many parents mean well when they say things like, “The kids come first.”
But it’s this sentiment and behavior that can damage a marriage.
When the focus shifts to the kids, and you’re not putting as much effort into your relationship as you used to, it can lead to a lack of physical intimacy and disconnection.
In my work researching marital success and the happiest couples in the world – I’ve learned that even couples with kids put their marriage first. A happy long-term marriage comes first.
Although it may sound wrong, putting your marriage before the kids is great for their future
When your kids see that your spouse takes precedence over others, even the kids, your children will see that a healthy partner values his spouse.
Sometimes, well-meaning parents will forgo date nights, planning intimacy, or treating their wives to something special because they believe putting the kids first is better.
So maybe they end up watching TV or on their phones.
Do this enough, and soon your wife starts to feel less desire from you, and in turn, it squelches her feeling of attraction for you, too.
If you’re wondering how to spice up your marriage, start putting your wife first.
Prioritize her feelings and her need to be appreciated, chased, loved, and treated to special outings.
If it’s true that a woman’s passion is a response to what a man does – you can turn on her desire-response by showing her how special and important she is.
Show her your desire by ensuring she feels like the most important person in your life.
Doing this helps your marriage and children see what a healthy marriage looks like.
Your children will take this into their marriage and look for a spouse who treats them like a priority.
I just want my wife to want me: Increase your wife’s desire by making her a priority
- Take a few minutes to check in with her every day without distractions.
- Schedule a date night and get a babysitter.
- Tell your kids you’re spending time with Mom, and they’ll have a turn too.
- Plan something with your kids where you’ll make her feel like she’s really important.
- Ensure that your wife gets the best seat when you sit at the table or while you’re out.
- There are many other ways you can communicate to your wife how important she is.
When you take a moment to consider other ways to make sure you’re giving her the proper priority she deserves – you’ll begin to shift the issue of desire.
Show Her You Care – Pick Up The Save Your Marriage Workbook
Why doesn’t my wife want me?
Several factors influence a woman’s lack of sexual desire, such as hormonal changes, elevated stress levels, physical health issues, mental health conditions, or unresolved marriage problems. To find out where your partner’s head is, talk to your wife about your concerns about your sex life and how you can best support her in the personal issues she may be facing.
How to make your wife want you?
Ultimately, the most important thing is to talk to your wife about her lack of sexual desire and listen attentively to her feelings. Ask her how you can help her feel more connected and turned on. Also, consider seeking professional help from a relationship coach or sex therapist who will help you navigate issues around sexual desire and save your marriage.
What does a sexless marriage do to a husband?
Living in a sexless marriage can have significant emotional, psychological, and physical effects on a husband, just as it can on a wife. These consequences include feelings of rejection, sadness, and resentment, low self-esteem, decline in physical health and mental health, reduced emotional intimacy, and relationship strain. Lack of physical and emotional intimacy is one of the biggest signs your marriage will end in divorce.
How to make my wife want me more?
Strategies for increasing emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage include prioritizing quality time together, showing appreciation, surprising your wife with romantic gestures, and loving touch. Additionally, have a conversation with your partner where you both share your sexual needs and desires. Consider ways you might spice up your sex life, such as trying role play or trying different positions.
This entire article is through the lens of a single lane. It presents the entire responsibility on the man. It pays zero attention to the struggle a man goes through when they feel undesired, and presents it as being the man’s fault.
I am tired of always having to initiate. And even more tired of feeling like intimacy is a duty or chore for my wife. I came here to find some guidance, and all I read was I have to do what I already do better. And it’s my fault.
We don’t believe it’s your fault. We’re sorry you’re stuck in this pattern, as a male coach to couples, I know how hard it is when men or women alike feel this way. We have an article about this same topic but from the female perspective. Unfortunately, an article can’t really address the core issues that require nuance, tact, and helping the couple listen, open, be curious, and use strong communication skills that typically require hands-on support. On our site many women complain about the same thing and in sessions many couples talk about this problem often. If you have already tried everything to change this part of your marriage, I’d ask if you’ve tried talking to someone as a couple? For the length of the article we tried to do our best to give tips, suggestions, and a little bit of the empathy part, but unfortunately to really delve into how you feel and your experience we’d likely need to create a whole new article. The emotions you and your wife are carrying are complex and typically fairly nuanced. The article isn’t meant to go into depth about your emotions, just some helpful tips and thoughts that might support creating a change. If it doesn’t feel helpful, I have a feeling that this issue has been going on a long time in your marriage. Would you agree? My guess is that the deeper issues are what need to be address — how you and your partner communicate. In most marriages sexual and physical intimacy is the first thing to change dramatically, and it’s the harder thing to fix because it requires walking through a field of land mines and many complex topics. In some cases men feel they’ve tried everything, and a wife might say she’s not open because of how her husband talks, doesn’t romance her, or how years ago her parents died and she felt unsupported through those hard times…and a man might say he’s been trying, but no matter what he does she just seems closed off. Both people are in a tough place. Many couples let this pattern go on for years and even decades (it’s not uncommon I meet couples who share it’s been years since they’ve been physically intimate, one couple recently said it’d been ten years but that they both have fantasies and desires).
Again, I am deeply sorry you are stuck in this immensely painful pattern. If you have tried everything, and done so without the support of a coach/therapist then I’d strongly encourage you to take the next step. Stop doing this alone, see if a professional can help you unknot this problem and help you get your love, intimacy, sex, and fun back into your marriage. It’s what we do, but if you have someone else who you trust to support you in the process, by all means stop doing this alone. You and your wife likely need help learning to talk and undress issues and feelings so you can have the intimacy you both likely crave (I don’t assume she wants or doesn’t want intimacy, but most often both partners just need some deeper help and they come to find they both want that intimacy and connection).
Wow, good to know I’m not delusional, just seems there’s a shift in expectation and entitlement in recent years. Many men will never get it right despite many years of doing all they can. I get lists of demands to meet her needs but my needs are Insignificant. Personally, in my own situation, I’ve decided life’s too short, offski!
Glenn we should talk alot in common raychase@primerica.com
You have got to be kidding me. It’s all the mans fault. Women have a Miriam of biological or psych test excuses, not the man, he’s just a pest who has to change. Forget about the fact he constantly does as his wife wishes, does all and more on your little list yet nothing, no passion, no attempt at even a hug, no romance, nothing. It’s always the mans fault. Ok l admit l have made mistakes but when did women become perfect beings who have all these outs and take absolutely no responsibility for the relationship. No sex anymore and that means nothing, l don’t care what you want or feel. Great help you sex therapist councillors. I asked that we go to counselling nearly 15 years before we got there. When we did the big silent routine. The counsellor thought it would be a good idea to see wife alone. I agreed being assured it would only be for a few visits then return to couples. Even after pleading with both my wife and Councillor, nothing. 18 months went by and all l got was every cliche l had ever read. I had been set up, manipulated. I didn’t get any opportunity to express my emotions, my concerns. Off course l do things that upset or annoy, but who decided a wife never does this, never offends, never hurts a husband feelings or breaks his heart. It was never all about sex, there was passion, fun, romance etc, l just didn’t realise it was mainly from me. I can count the times my wife initiated sex. She never cuddles up to me yet wants me to cuddle up to her but don’t dare get excited or turned on. When she goes away l so look forward to seeing her until l see that look. Don’t even think about it. I went for nearly two years without even mentioning sex, all loving, thoughtful, enjoying each other’s company, doing all the things l was asked and many l wasn’t, l did the shopping, did most of the cooking, cleaned the house, l’m the one who gets up if the dog needs to go out. I also looked after my parents and kids. And to top it off, l got councilling, assistance with my problems, even 2 months dedicated in a clinic. Yes we must fix me. I’m not good enough. What happened when we got away for a hole day together. I snuggled up and felt the revolution. So l went no further. Next time she seemed relaxed comfortable and then as is so often the case, she falls asleep. When l try to raise the matter, it’s turned around, “all you want is sex, you make me feel like shit” And you want the men to get on their hands and knees and change, their not good enough so change, do all these things even when you have already been doing them all the relationship with little in return. Try something new please like just maybe the women might be at fault for just some things of the relationship. I have no idea why l bothered reading another pathetic couples advice and no idea why l bothered to write all this. Maybe it’s because l love and adore my wife, l respect her and cherish her and have tried and tried to keep things special. But no, romance, that’s not necessary, that could lead to sex and that’s awful. I find this attitude puritanical, moralising, arrogant yet l suggest we get some advice or try to talk about it and suddenly the coercion routine, this is abuse. What the hell happened. You can’t even apologise anymore because no one else s listening. My wife controls the relationship, has done so for years yet the last l was told on this matter, was, “you just want sex to keep you happy” ignoring the fact she is and has been doing exactly the opposite. She is insisting there be no sex or romance just so she can be happy, she gets her way. Try and stay happy, try and stay positive under those circumstances and under this never ending “white males” are bastards and the only ones who cause any problems in the world. I want respect for women, for all genders and l would appreciate if people especially women would stop generalising. I have been a committed supporter of these issues and on countless occasions got my head bitten off by women because they all different, they say they want the same thing but stay out of their way. There is absolutely no difference in genders when it comes to control in a relationship. The one that manipulates it to ensure their control will always win out if they have a loving partner because they don’t want to hurt them in any way. Instead they harm themselves and watch their relationship become empty. Please look at both sides of an issue. Regards G.
I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s always tending to the woman’s needs. It’s like men are considered shallow and flawed and sex driven to begin with and women are these perfect entities. The biggest hoax. Women are as imperfect as men are but whatever they find the real issues are the ones that matter. Freaking annoying. You get older and you just wise up and see things for what they are. Women want their cake and eat it too. They act like it’s their birth right.
I totally agree! Everything in this article i have done, and lots more. It’s always the man that needs to improve, wtf?? I’ve slipped little notes in here lunch bag, made her lunch for 3 years, clean the house, give her shoulder rubs, slap her on the butt playfully daily, compliment her, etc etc etc. She has even told her friends numerous times “He’s such a great husband, i feel so lucky!”, but her attitude is the opposite. I think it’s only to make her friends jealous. We’ve been married 11 years. She never takes out the trash, but will let me know when it’s full. Once she got a job, it seems her thought is that’s all she has to do. She never puts her arms around me, nothing….just sex once a week, and a peck kiss when she leaves for work….but honestly i need more.
She has never once left me a note. When it comes to gifts, she never puts any thought into it, just asks what i want and gets that…wow big surprise!
Every time we do an improvement on the house, she doesn’t trust my judgement, she will argue. We redid, and by we i mean me…redid our daughters bedroom flooring. The whole time it’s “Honey, you should do it this way, blah blah” So i asked “When was the last time you laid flooring of any kind?” If i say the sky is blue, she will argue with me about it.
Omg exactly what I have been hearing for the last few years. I attempt to give her what she wants while still having a relationship but I am told all I think about is Sex,Sex,Sex. She tells me she read about ways to be close that do not have to do with one anothers genitals. I google it and find articles on 36 ways to gratify each other without each other’s genitals. I read all about different ways to gratify each other then tell her and she gets upset again. I tell her then explain it to me as I do not understand . She accuses me of being too specific. I tell her that I am just attempting to understand what she is looking for but I am the problem again and when I get frustrated I am not monotone so there I go again just cannot talk to me. I am the most loving and in love man I have ever met but I am 64 and how long am I expected to wait to have this woman love m
Glenn, I couldn’t have said it better. The amount of time I think about her and our relationship compared to the time she spends is embarrassingly tilted. The number of sleepless nights I’ve had while she sleeps away, the amount of angst I feel when thinking “should I try tonight? She seemed in a good mood, she brushed against me before bed, was that a sign?” Only to see she’s ko’d in 2 minutes. Don’t dare wake her up, she’ll snap.
I feel ya G.
Glenn you took the words out of my mouth. I’ve read so many articles I’m sick of reading the same thing in every piece I look up. It does not matter what I do, I simply am not good enough. Like you I too do a lot at home. I lived alone until I was almost 45 years old. I didn’t get married because I wanted or needed a woman to raise my kids, cook my food, wash my clothes or clean my house. I married her because I love her like no other. She’s very giving and caring as she works as a nurse. She works 12 hour shifts, 2 to 3 days a week. I work 8 to 10 hours a day 5 days a week. When I come home and she’s been at home all day, she keeps her seat, nothing being done about dinner. When she comes home from a 12 hr shift that normally turns into 14 hr shift, I do my best to always have something ready for her to eat. I welcome her home, give her a hug but most times it’s straight to the bath. I do most of the cooking, shopping, yard/outside work. I do lay, clean, sweep, mop, tidy things up as I don’t like clutter. Her son comes home to visit, guess who’s cooking for who. I don’t mind, I survived on my own for years without a cook, it’s the thought that counts. She says I’m too critical, I’m just doing my best playing catch up on caring for our home that was neglected for many years. We have a nice home but it’s something all the time keeping up. If you do nothing for several years it will take a lot to get it back to par. I know there are women out there that has a husband that doesn’t help out around the home but not this man. I do everything I can to be considerate and keep as much off my wife as possible. She’ll hold my hand, but that’s about as far as it regularly goes. I’ve calmly talked with her about it and nothing, talk again and again then finally you see a change. Three days later it’s like we never had that talk. I love my wife, she’s my Princess and the most important person on this planet to me. I’m not good with words, I can’t think of everything. It’s just a feeling I get, she’s all concerned about doing for others most all the time. I only have ONE need, it’s not a want it’s a need. I’m not perfect but I try to meet my wife’s needs and do nice things for her, give her a hand on something she’s working on. I’ve studied, researched, talked and it all goes back to one thing. Men are the problem to everything and everyone. I don’t feel my opinion is respected or valued much. I give everything I got to my marriage for my beautiful wife. All I desire is to feel desired by my wife. Like you said all I want is sex. Yep when someone is starving it’s kinda hard to not think about food. She wouldn’t consider a counselor because nothing is wrong in her eyes. She’s right, I’m not…..end of story. These articles all pretty much say the same garbage over and over. Come on, I do all that and much more, it doesn’t matter what I want because it’s not what she wants. Ok back to the “Do you feel you love your spouse more than they love you”. I’ve never once denied sex to my wife, she’s irresistible to me.
I feel ya Glynn
Wow so I’m not thr only one breaking my back to give my wife all she needs and more to just get thrown to the curb. Try to be romantic, or just watch a show together all I want is sex. Been together 12 yrs and she’s initiated sex maybe 8 times. Its been going on 2 yrs of treating her as a queen and killing my self to make her happy. All done with the purpose of making her happy. Yes I did expect sex a few times like birthday at the very least. Try and mention any kind of issue in the relationship and automatically goes to all I want is sex. At a loss, nit looking for a weekly thing at least once every couple months. It’s not that it’s just a personal need but more so a relationship need. It helps to bring you both closer together. It’s helps to keep relationships healthy. But nothing works. Women don’t understand that it actually hurts us to be rejected by those that supposed to be our partners in life. Most times the relationship ends due to this issue and it yet still would be our fault as men as if we didn’t do enough when in all reality were just to tired from trying to long to please or wife.
You should see what it feels like to know you are hurting your husband and unable to fix yourself. I stopped trying to force myself to enjoy it because he is depressed now. I just let him get off so I can rest and get a break from the constant pressur to act like a porn star.
Sir, you took the words right out of my mouth. It seems like I’m never enough. Years of changing who and how I am only to reach to the same results. There’s no place for men that are neglected. Give, give, give, no changes…keep giving more only to die without passion or desire. Truly thinking of just calling it quits and leaving this world.