6 Warning Signs For When To Leave A Lying Spouse

When to leave a lying spouse?

If your spouse is lying to you, it can be challenging to know when to leave. The signs of deceit may not be immediately apparent, especially if you are close to the potential liar.

However, if your partner lies, it can devastate and harm your marriage.

What are some signs that my spouse is lying to me?

There are a few signs that may indicate your spouse has been telling repeated lies. Here are the main lying husband signs and lying wife signs.

1. They avoid eye contact when they talk to you.

The first sign of deceit is an inability to look into your eyes. Avoiding eye contact can be a sign of lying because the person doesn’t want to give away their deceit.

However, when someone is honest, eye contact can show they have nothing to hide.

But when someone is lying, they avoid eye contact because they know it will be easier for the other person to detect that they’re lying.

2. They change the subject when you try to talk about specific topics.

People change the subject when talking to you because they don’t want to get caught lying.

For example, if your husband is lying about watching porn, he may change the subject quickly because he knows his porn use upsets you.

When you feel like something is left out of a story, this could be because there’s more to the story. Also, liars will contradict themselves and make statements that don’t add up.  

3. Your spouse makes up excuses.

People make excuses when lying because they want to try and cover up the truth.

They think that if they can explain away why they were dishonest, the other person is more likely to believe them. For example, maybe your partner has the excuse that they are just trying to protect you.

But unfortunately, making up excuses usually makes things worse. Most people can tell when someone is being dishonest. Further, this makes them suspicious of what else the liar might be hiding.

4. They get defensive when you accuse them of lying.

People get defensive when they lie because they know they’re in trouble. They know that their partner is likely to be upset with them when they find out the truth, and they want to try and avoid that confrontation.

But, unfortunately for the liar, getting defensive can deepen suspicions.

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5. Your spouse uses a dismissive tone when you confront them.

If your spouse is lying, they might use a dismissive tone when you confront them.

This is because they don’t want to admit that they’re lying and want to downplay the importance of what they’re hiding.

But, if your spouse is telling the truth, they’ll likely be more open and won’t try to downplay the importance of what you’re saying.

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6. They become withdrawn and distant.

People act distant when they lie because they know you will be upset with them when you find out the truth.

They don’t want to deal with the confrontation, so they try to avoid it. But unfortunately, withdrawing to protect one’s self, only creates more distance.

When your spouse pulls away, it makes you feel worthless or emotionally neglected.

You may start to question if they still love you.

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7. They start acting out in strange or unexpected ways.

Is your spouse acting strange, like they’re trying to cover up all the lies? They may hide the truth because they think you’ll be upset if you find out the truth.

They don’t want to deal with the confrontation, so they try to distract with strange behaviors.

8. Incongruent body language

If your partner is saying one thing, but their body language is saying something else, it can indicate lies. Likewise, things can feel off if your partner’s feelings and emotions don’t match their movements.

When people lie, they might:

– Fidget with their hands or arms

– Touch their face or neck

– Cross their arms or legs

– Turn their body away from you

These are just a few examples of how body language can indicate deceit.

Also, you might have a sense that your partner is dishonest. Be aware of your gut feelings. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s probably because it isn’t.

When should you leave a lying spouse?

You might be asking yourself, “My wife or husband is lying to me. When to leave a lying spouse?” Of course, people lie, but if your marriage is falling apart because of deceit, consider this your wake-up call.

1. Your spouse is constantly lying to you.

Have you ever found yourself saying, “My husband lies about everything”? Or “My wife doesn’t know how to tell the truth”?

Constant lying can damage a relationship as it undermines trust and intimacy.

Compulsive lying is when someone repeatedly lies without any rational reason. They may continue telling outright lies, even when they do not have a motive for doing so. A marriage can survive compulsive lying, but it will require work from both partners.

Both partners must be willing to work on the relationship, and the compulsive or pathological liar must seek help for their problem.

2. They’re always trying to cover up their tracks.

Does your spouse have trouble answering direct questions? Maybe getting them to answer questions seems like a chore, and you can’t get a clear answer.

This can be a sign that dishonesty is causing a disconnect in relationships.

3. Your spouse frequently gets caught in lies.

Maybe you feel as though ‘my husband continues to lie’ or ‘I never know anymore if my wife is telling the truth.’

Does this sound familiar?

Maybe they tell detailed stories, but then the story contradicts itself. There are a few details that seem off. Or maybe they start a new story so they don’t have to answer questions.

Next thing you know, they can’t keep their story straight.

4. Their behavior has changed dramatically.

Behaviors like avoiding eye contact, a defensive attitude, or talking slower while they think of their next lie can be indicators they are not being honest.

If your partner is at the point where making eye contact is challenging, this can cause a severe disconnect in your marriage.

As a result, you may feel like intimacy is lacking and your husband or wife loves but doesn’t desire you.

5. Your partner withdraws from you emotionally.

Some signs that a spouse is emotionally withdrawn may include spending more time alone, becoming less communicative, ignoring you altogether, or appearing disinterested in the relationship. They may want sex but not intimacy.

If you see these signs in your spouse, talk to them about it. Find out what is going on and see if there is anything you can do to help.

6. They are putting their own needs above yours.

Lying can be a way your spouse puts their needs above yours. When your wife or husband lies, they are essentially saying they don’t trust you. This can cause significant damage in any relationship and lead to insecurity and a lack of trust.

One of the reasons why husbands lie is to avoid having to communicate directly. When they lie, they take away your ability to make an informed decision about what is best for both of you. This can cause resentment and frustration.

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How do you set boundaries with a lying spouse?

Boundaries are the foundation for healthy romantic relationships. Setting boundaries lets others know what they can expect from us and how we want to be treated – without anger or resentment because our needs were met!

Drawing a clear boundary with a lying spouse can be complex, but it is essential. If you don’t communicate this clarity, the lying will continue to hurt your relationship.

First, identify what you need. Then, communicate those to your spouse. Be clear and concise.

Set healthy expectations together

If you have caught your spouse lying, the first step is to confront them about it. Next, ensure they understand how your wife or husband’s lies have affected you.

Set expectations together.

This means that both partners need to be honest and transparent with each other. If either party fails to meet these expectations, the lies can continue to damage the relationship.

If they are willing to apologize for hurting someone they love and change their behavior, it’s a good sign there is hope for your relationship.

What happens when the truth comes out?

The truth can be enlightening, but it’s often devastating and traumatic to discover that someone you loved has betrayed your trust.

It can shatter the image of who they were and your confidence in yourself. It can take time to rebuild trust. But it can be done.

Seek support, and don’t try to suffer alone.

Start rebuilding trust with your partner when you join the Save Your Marriage Course.

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